Tuesday, May 22, 2007


Crescent whispers my name, checking to see if I’m awake. It’s four thirty, two and a half hours before the wake-up call.
“So it’s like this then,” I say.
“Yeah…we should sleep. Big day coming.”
“Like a train from Wénzhou” I say.
So I sleep again and wake up an hour and a half later. Crescent’s standing at the window taking pictures of the sunrise over the city. I rise and we pack our list into a daypack– diapers, bottles, official papers, passports, camera, gifts for officials wrapped in red paper for luck, a toy, two tiny shirts, two tiny pants, two tiny shoes, water – and head downstairs.
Pat Lee, the woman who has shepherded us through the process, is waiting for us in the lobby. A score of orange fish as big as my hand glide and roll around a phone booth sized cylindrical tank on a pedestal nearby, businessmen sit in large leather chairs, smoking and doing business, or reading the morning newspapers. Doris, one of Pat’s dozen children, is also there, talking on a cell phone with our driver. Doris is Pat’s CCAA liaison and for this trip, our guide, translator, and arranger, switching between Mandarin, Cantonese, and English like I change radio stations. The other family in our group, Julie and her mother Mayme from Daphne, Alabama, is still upstairs. They arrive a few minutes before the driver and we all stand around talking about small things, as people do when large things are happening, as if we weren’t a half hour away from our daughters.
When the van arrives, we load in and our driver pulls into murderously tight traffic. Cars whose manufacturers are unknown to me grind along within inches on all sides of us. Bicyclists slip through momentary gaps that grow between the cars, pedestrians stream across crosswalks, spaces and speeds calibrated to the inch. No one waits for western-sized buffer zones, they step into traffic with a suicidal abandon, shoot gaps, defy death, as if it were an everyday thing. Cars, bikes, pedestrians, mopeds, electric scooters weave a random web, going from everywhere to everywhere at once. Beyond the road, beyond the sidewalks, shops give way to open spaces, parks, monuments. Hongzhou is a garden city, a monument city, impeccably manicured and well cared for. The streets are spotless. No litter anywhere.
We arrive at the building that houses the Office of Civil Affairs. An accordion gate on wheels is pushed open wide enough to admit us in pairs, or in threes, and we climb the granite steps that spill out onto the sidewalk from the glass-fronted lobby. An official sits smoking behind a metal office desk to one side, two others men in cushion chairs sit talking along the wall on the other side. They look up then return to their conversation. A ping-pong table fills the space between.
Our business is on the 6th floor, so Doris asks directions to the elevator. They speak Mandarin, then Doris laughs an exasperated laugh, rolls her eyes. The man laughs too and gestures to a doorway across the lobby.
“No elevator! Stairs,” he says in rounded English, and laughs again. So we climb the six flights of stairs, Crescent, Doris and I ahead of Julie, Mayme and Pat. On the sixth floor, we step into a long hallway. To the right are steps out onto a rooftop patio, and it looks beautiful at a glance, but that’s all I do is glance, because on the other end of the hallway are two floor-to-ceiling wooden doors, dark, with gold bars for handles.
“Is that the room? Is Ji Xia in there?” I ask Doris.
“Yes. The babies are there, and the people from the orphanage. We must wait for the official.”
The official, a beautiful woman in a green laced dress, steps out of an office as Julie, Mayme and Pat arrive in the hallway. We all walk toward the big doors. Crescent is holding my arm. The official opens the doors, and we walk in. Ji Xia is asleep on her stomach on a pair of leather courtroom chairs pushed together into a crib. We watch her sleep, unsure. What in the world is the protocol for this? Do we wake her up? Let her sleep? I feel tears rising. A moment later, her caregiver gently lifts her out of her sleep and hands her to Crescent, and we become a family.

17 comments:

Unknown said...

Yes, You did the RIGHT thing - for JiXia Lee, for you two, for us grandparents , for everybody!! She is Precious! Guess what i've been doing real often yesterday and today? You know me; Yes, I'v been looking, reading, and CRYING because I'm HAPPY! Love you three!

Anonymous said...

three is a magic number
yes it is
a man and a woman had a little baby
they had three in the family
three is a magic number

c & g & ji makes 3
hee hee hee
we love thee three!!!

t,b,p&b

Lori said...

Today it is no longer a question of lucky parents or lucky baby. Today you became a lucky family.
Congratulations.

Amanda said...

What are you kidding me?? You've got yourselves a family!

We're sending you all the love in our hearts as you enter the magical world of parenthood. Take good notes for us!

Love,
Mandy & Paul

Unknown said...

The last couple days here at the beach, we've been thinking and talking about how it will be next time when you guys are with us again--C&G and their little girl. Heehee, we are so excited. She's wonderful.

Love K, G, M & L - The Tongs

sundar said...

Hey, it does look like you got the best one!

--sundar

Unknown said...

Y'all done made me bust out cryin'.
We are so proud of you.
Love,
cp&a

ghaus said...

I'm crying too! Crescent, what a beautiful smile for your baby to see. Congratulations to all.

Anonymous said...

Paisley and I are looking at the picture.
Shelly: Oh, Ji Xia is crying.
Paisley: Yea, because she wants Crescent to hold her.

Paisley wanted to write you a heart, but she didn't know how, so I will let her type what she does know how to write.

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Anonymous said...

Y'all come on home now. I have a lot of things to tell that baby about.

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It's Me....Dea said...

GOTCHA!
& now you never have to let go.

blessings,
Dea

Unknown said...

I am crying as Allen finishes reading the e-mail and now I can't stop i am so happy so so happy for all of you.

we love you, jenny
Zacharia told his cousins that they all have a new cousin and a girl cousin at that, they are all boys.

Anonymous said...

I JUST WANT YOU GUYS TO KNOW HOW HAPPY I AM FOR YOU. SHE IS A BEAUTIFUL SPECIAL LITTLE GIRL AND SHE HAS TWO VERY SPECIAL PARENTS. I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE THE THREE OF YOU!!! LOVE TERRI

kwaldroping said...

sniff sniff. That's beautiful.

Anonymous said...

Wow! Congratulations Progessor Grinell. You are an amazing story teller! I'm glad everything is working out so beautifly! Have a fantastic summer with your new baby girl and I hope to see you next semester!

Anna Miller